post-modern marriage myths 2

From an ongoing conversation about our upcoming wedding. Thought I'd share a snippet...

"Marriage itself, stripped of that element and any ideas of possession - is the desire to make continuity out of discontinuity. I'm not especially fixated on whether or not it can be broken - I know all too well from past experience that everything eventually succumbs to entropy in one way or another - it is the ongoing intent, the will, to unite different elements within the circle of "a marriage." To bring that about some things may need to be sacrificed, though again, not so cut and dry as traditional values would imply. Nevertheless, anything brought into one part of the circle effects other parts of it, for better or worse, and the results of that are shared so long as that striving towards unity is stronger than the forces that bring about discontinuity. Even the words "divorce" and "marriage" imply this. The circle is so primal and universal of a symbol that it might seem a bit too general for this but at it's most simple I think marriage is simply "casting a circle." Whatever is brought inside the confines of that figure become a part of ones center of personal concern.

I'm not sure if this provides an entry point for you. I am sure a lot of people would consider that too philosophical to be meaningful. My rebuttal would be that they may not think about the terms and rituals they're using (parroting) enough to give them any particular meaning whatsoever."