tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post5026191978116563678..comments2024-01-10T18:34:38.739-08:00Comments on Modern Mythology: Postmodernogamy, Polyamory, and the Marriage NarrativeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04721839742206290258noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-77165730999835195522011-01-02T18:38:22.966-08:002011-01-02T18:38:22.966-08:00It is difficult or not depending on a number of th...It is difficult or not depending on a number of things. There is, in my experience, no absolutely "open" relationships- or really it's more like there are no closed systems, and one relationship effects another one. Sometimes we have to put artificial restrictions on the behavior of others to protect our sanity within the relationships we have- and either our partner(s) can humor us in that, or not, depending on how important those things are to the person in question.<br /><br />Like- based on some of my own past experiences (including some pretty traumatic childhood experiences), I have reactions to certain situations with men that limits the degree of freedom of my partner. This doesn't, for reasons passing my own understanding, extend so much to lovers. There's nothing rational about going cave-man on people that have penises, and being completely accepting of those who don't. But I have serious issues with men, which I have worked a great deal on, but not enough to make this a non-issue. <br /><br />But, be that as it may, I have *absolutely* no difficulty giving more than one woman an incredible amount of attention and affection. It is one of the most important things in my life, as well as one of my favorite. And giving it to them AT ONCE, like literally, is probably my favorite thing sexually as well. It's just how I'm wired.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04721839742206290258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-42508769404553759982011-01-02T16:24:05.183-08:002011-01-02T16:24:05.183-08:00Can't say I blame you.
I've gone through...Can't say I blame you. <br /><br />I've gone through phases of long-term monogamy and polyamory, and I've come to believe that once jealousy issues are dealt with (which actually isn't very difficult) time management becomes the main drawback of the latter. Honestly, I very often don't have the time or inclination to give my fullest attention to multiple women at once. <br /><br />What do you think?Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13167592797581635545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-25915181327515123592011-01-02T15:37:39.435-08:002011-01-02T15:37:39.435-08:00Not really, no. :)Not really, no. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04721839742206290258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-86687395984400350442011-01-02T06:50:47.019-08:002011-01-02T06:50:47.019-08:00You mention not having any inclination towards hom...You mention not having any inclination towards homosexuality. Would you say you have any inclination at all towards monogamy? Perhaps the occasional nocturnal fantasy about fidelity? An almost perverse desire to spurn the embrace of willing, beautiful women in the interests of a chivalrous ideal?<br /><br /> (I'm nor totally certain if the above paragraph was written in jest.)Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13167592797581635545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-48838376971004876712011-01-01T19:11:47.761-08:002011-01-01T19:11:47.761-08:00Monogamy seems very selfish to me...Monogamy seems very selfish to me...Kara Rae Garlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13710412624802565882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-57395760760439546542010-12-19T15:35:44.406-08:002010-12-19T15:35:44.406-08:00That's obviously a bit tongue-in-cheek.
Do I...That's obviously a bit tongue-in-cheek. <br /><br />Do I need to specify that? <br /><br />But the "mutual best interest" part is important, as well as the distinction between "Things you can do that I like," "Things you can do that I both like and am uncomfortable with" "Things you can do that I'm indifferent to" "Things you can do that make me uncomfortable" and "Things you can do that drive me unconditionally, irrationally insane."<br /><br />Try to avoid the latter one as much as possible. Simple enough? Sometimes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04721839742206290258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-17410856421673195952010-12-19T14:33:16.030-08:002010-12-19T14:33:16.030-08:00Sadly, or not, it's easier when bisexuality is...Sadly, or not, it's easier when bisexuality is involved as it means someone being able to explore something important to them that some partners wouldn't abide.<br /><br />For my own twisted reasons aside from this I've got more I'm common with bi girls though I'm sadly not at all bisexual and no thought experiments seem to want to budge that at all. (In fact I'd love to never see a man naked, ever.) Ah, well. If I could've been born a woman I'd make a killer lesbian. So it goes!<br /><br />Share this post with your girlfriend. If she'll still speak with you afterwards, you're golden. ;pAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04721839742206290258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9650614.post-48836551942101001682010-12-19T00:48:51.591-08:002010-12-19T00:48:51.591-08:00I had a discussion on the subject with my love int...I had a discussion on the subject with my love interest and she got all sad, like I was only saying that because I was planning to cheat on her, or something. I tried to tell her "why does it have to be cheating if..." and then I stopped because obviously I was going to keep my open question and she was going to stand on her opinion and nothing would move. Social pressure is the key element I think. If my gf accepts my behaviour she still has to live with it and keep it secret so that other people won't despise her for "being weak".<br /><br />christians did a good job to f*ck us up... (well maybe not only christians but they certainly did a good, long job)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531483676762325896noreply@blogger.com